Be Kind to Yourself

The Princess of Cups from the Druid Craft Tarot

The Princess of Cups from the Druid Craft Tarot

It’s been a while since my last post, and I have to say I’ve been juggling a lot of things the last few months of 2013.  When responsibilities start piling up, I have to be super conscious about self-criticism and and lack of self-care.  Add a string of holidays to the mix, and I’m sure you can see where this could lead:  Stress-ville.  That’s why I was so comforted and pleased to see the Princess of Cups show up for these last couple of weeks of December.  Her message is:  Be kind to yourself, honor your sensitivity, and nurture the light within.

The Princess of Cups is also known as the The Page of Cups in more traditional Tarot decks, and they represent children, youth, innocence, being a beginner, openness, and embracing wonder.  I have to admit that this particular Princess of Cups is my favorite of all the decks I’ve seen.  She is savoring the blessings of her cup.  She is quiet, inward, sincere, and very grounded {just look at her bare feet standing solidly on a rock by the pool of water.}  All of these things are exactly what we need during these busy times.

The meaning of this card is sweet, simple, and to the point.  Savor this precious time.  Be good to yourself and nurture your physical body so you can stay grounded.  Take time to enjoy the connections of family and friends, and remember that it’s the energy rather than the “stuff” you bring that will be most remembered.  Notice the wonder of this magical time of year {we had our first snow over the weekend, and it was so hushed, reverent, and beautiful.  It slowed everything down, and it felt like a gift to be able to stay home, make beef stew, and just putter around.} Be grateful, laugh, play and remember that you are enough.

It’s easy to get swept up in the intensity of holiday activities, but one of the reasons this is such a time of celebration is that it’s the time of the winter solstice ~ the longest night of the year.   As the light dims outwardly, it’s a time to go inward and kindle the light within ourselves.  The Princess of Cups is the essence of open-heartedness and connection, and she knows that the love/light starts within each one of us.  So keep your flame burning bright by being kind and loving to you, and you’ll end up blessing everyone around with the light of your own warm heart.  Being sparkly is contagious!

I’m sending you lots of love for your holidays and wishing you the most beautiful, joy-filled season.  Thank you for all the warm wishes and kind words over the past year… it’s been deeply felt and appreciated.  I’ll be back in January with a new website and a whole new journey! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! xo

 

 

 

 

 

Put Your Action Where Your Heart Is

The Chariot from Gateway to the Divine Tarot Deck

The Chariot from Gateway to the Divine Tarot Deck

I just spent a fabulous and regenerating weekend at Kripalu and had the pleasure of taking a workshop with Howard Martin from The Institute of HeartMath – all about Connecting with Your Heart’s Purpose and Creating a Heart-Based World.  This subject definitely spoke to me, and I was inspired by all that I learned.  It seems no accident that today is all about The Chariot, and the key words here are: Trust, Alignment, and Victory.  Or another way to put it would be: Trust your Heart, Align your thoughts, words, and deeds with the desires of your Heart, and this will lead you to Victory.  The Chariot is asking me to put the wonderful things I learned this weekend into practice, and I want to share the message of this card along with some of the gems from that workshop.

The Chariot is number 7 of the major arcana, and in my own work with the tarot and the work I’ve done with others I have noticed that the 7’s often bring up confusion or resistance (sometimes I even feel like confusion is a form of resistance – but that’s another article.)  Mainly it’s because of that big T word – Trust.  Sometimes that can be so frustrating to hear when what we’re really hoping for is a loop-hole around having to trust.  Maybe we’ve started down a path because our heart’s were leading us, but now our doubts have been triggered and we’re wondering if we need to keep going or turn back.  We’ve gotten stalled out and our fears are having their way with us.  We just want a clear affirmation that yes, we’re doing exactly the right thing and everything will turn out just fine.  The Chariot does give us this encouragement, but it does it by calling us into action.  It guides us to look at what we’re doing and how we’re doing it.  It asks:  Are you all in or are you walking the fence?  Do you really want what you’re going for or are you giving just enough of your energy to try and test things out hoping that you’ll get your guarantee before you fully commit.  When The Chariot shows up, it is calling us out on the places where we’ve allowed ourselves to remain divided, and it is a blessing when it does show up.  It’s exactly the help we need when our energies aren’t integrated.  The promise of The Chariot is that we can have anything we choose, but we have to fully choose it – we have to commit and align our actions with our highest goals.  The image on the card shows a woman charioteer riding through the ocean with a full moon lighting her path.  She is holding the reigns of two horses.  One horse is black and other is white, and they seem to be veering in different directions.  However, she is holding them steady with her intention and her faith.  She is trusting her heart and her intuition – staying clearly intent on her vision.  This clarity, focus, and right action is keeping her from sinking into the emotional depths of the water and losing her momentum.

If you’re wondering how The Chariot might be speaking to you today, here are a couple of questions and tools to use for clarity and insight.

1.  Take a look at the goals you are currently working toward.  Do these goals inspire you, spark your enthusiasm, and light you up when you think or talk about them?  If they don’t, then you may want to consider changing them because they may not be goals of your heart.  Take some time to listen to your heart – you may need a course correction.  I highly recommend The Quick Coherence Technique designed by The Institute of HeartMath.  All you do is center your awareness on your heart and gently breathe into that space.  Think about something that you appreciate and breathe that feeling of appreciation into your heart.  When you have done this for a few minutes you are in a perfect space to ask for internal guidance.  Write down your question and sit quietly for a few more moments, then write down anything that you received.  Don’t worry if you didn’t receive anything – you can always try again or you may find that the answer just drops in at a later time when you’re least expecting it.  Be open.

2.  If you know that your goals make your heart sing, then The Chariot is asking you to take action.  What tasks are you putting off because they are more challenging or scary?  Where are you feeling the most resistance?  Go there first and acknowledge what you’re feeling.  Just sit with that for a moment.  Make a commitment to some form of action.  If you are feeling overwhelmed,  just do the first thing that comes to mind.  It may be something very simple like finding the business card with the phone number on it, or it could be sending an email, or making a list of the supplies you’ll need.  You can use the Quick Coherence Technique as well to help you zero in on that next action step.  You can also use another wonderful technique from The Institute of HeartMath called the Inner-Ease Technique.  Acknowledge your feelings, do the focused breathing I described above, and then imagine that you are drawing in the feeling of inner ease with each breath.  Anchor and maintain this feeling as you go about your day and notice the difference in how it unfolds.

If you are interested in more information from the Institute of HeartMath check out www.heartmath.org  This Institute is conducting scientific research on the heart and the various ways it works in our bodies and affects our lives.  They have proven that using the Quick Coherence Technique I mentioned above creates an optimal state in which the heart, mind and emotions are aligned and in-sync.  Also, physiologically, the immune, hormonal and nervous systems function in a state of energetic coordination.  In short, our bodies and our lives just work better.  Have a beautiful and productive day! xo

 

What Does Your Inner Child Need?

The Six of Cups from The Wildwood Tarot and The Gateway to the Divine Tarot

The Six of Cups from The Wildwood Tarot and The Gateway to the Divine Tarot

Are you feeling overwhelmed these days?  Maybe you’re keeping track of baseball schedules, music lessons, your job, meals, volunteer work, etc… and then there are the errands.  You’ve got emails to return, permission slips to sign, and every time you see one of your family members they remind you of something they need you to do.  There aren’t enough hours in the day to get it all done and everything feels too important to let go.  You drop into bed exhausted and have trouble falling asleep because now your head is filled with the bills you need to pay and the little things you forgot to do…. you’re exhausted and finally fall asleep (or not) knowing that you’ll get up tomorrow and do it all again.  It’s exhausting just writing about it, much more, living it.

If this, or some version of it closely resembles your life on a consistent basis, then The Six of Cups is really speaking to you and here’s the message:  You need to hit the “reset button” by giving your Inner Adult a break and entertaining your Inner Child.  Of course, your Inner Adult may be reading this and saying, “Absolutely impossible,” but that’s what our Inner Adults do – especially when they are in high gear.   The Six of Cups reminds us that a healthy person needs to maintain a balance between both Inner Child and Inner Adult.  Our Inner Adults help us stay grounded, make good decisions, and work towards goals.  Our Inner Children keep us inspired, playful, and content.  We can be irresponsible, ungrounded and chaotic if our Inner Children are constantly in charge, and our lives can get equally messy, colorless, and uninspiring when our Inner Adults are running the show.  It’s like the Von Trapp children from “The Sound of Music” – if your life feels a little bit like those marching kids in their uniforms answering to the Captain’s whistle, then you need a little music, creativity and fun to reunite you with your heart – home to your absolutely adorable and loveable Inner Child.  You need your version of Fraulein Maria to come in and spice things up a bit…. and if you’re not familiar with these “Sound of Music” references you might start by watching this classic movie (singing about your “Favorite Things” is guaranteed to make you feel sillier, freer, and a lot better : )

This is really the message of The Six of Cups…. to reconnect with your heart and transform your Inner Adult from a cold task master back into a loving parent.  The first step is doing something that feels good to your starved Inner Child.  This might mean that you need to take a break and completely change the channel for a few hours or it might mean that you need to approach what you’re already doing with fresh eyes and a lighter step.  For example, this weekend my Adult felt that we needed to clean out the barn/garage.  It was overdue and had grown into a huge task.  As we began the process my partner, Joel, was anxious.  He knows that when I go into “high gear” things can get pretty tense, but I had already been reminded during the week that I needed to slow down, pace myself and find the fun in the process.  Keeping this in mind…when I found the old hula hoop I took a few minutes to try it out.  I let my creative spirit enjoy the treasure hunt aspect of going through old things that I had forgotten about.  We talked about ideas for our yard as we worked side by side and played music the whole time.  We stopped at regular intervals, got drinks of water, admired our handy work and had snacks.  We let our Inner Adults take good care of us while we worked, and we let our Inner Children have some fun.  All in all, we got through the whole process without bickering and the task was complete by the end of the weekend.  Suddenly a huge weight was lifted.

I’ve tackled jobs like this many times over the years and they haven’t gone anything like this, so I’m not trying to paint a picture of perfection here… we were grateful and surprised by the experience!  What I do want to point out is that sometimes our Adults go overboard.  We become so fixated on goals and checking things off our lists that our Children get stifled and starved.  We forget to take care of ourselves, we push ourselves to exhaustion and every action is something we are rushing through to get to the next “have to” on our list.  When our Inner Adult has declared martial law in our lives and our Inner Child is neglected or exhausted… we may not know why, but we feel awful.  It can show up as stress, anxiety, or even a numb, listless feeling, and it’s a clue that something is off.  This is where your spirit comes in and suggests that you take a little time to reset, do something relaxing, fun, or simply do nothing for a little while – daydream.  Don’t be surprised if you meet up with some resistance from your militant Adult and your whiny Child at first.  Just do something different and break the cycle.  If you can play along with your spirit for a little while you’ll see that your wound up Adult transforms into a good parent and your irritable, bratty child becomes a happy, well-tended cherub.  Take a deep breath, center your awareness in your heart and quietly ask your spirit what will bring “music” back into your world right now.  Pay attention to the first thing that pops into your head.  This is intuitive guidance!  Give your Inner Adult a break and hit the “reset button” in your life.  When you allow for the pause, you allow bright ideas, clarity and magic to enter your life. xo