About Me

IMG_5046I have always been intuitive, but I didn’t always embrace it.  You see, I grew up in the South and as a result I have nice manners, a love of beauty, and an accent…. and I was always taught that an accommodating nature was the key to getting along in the world.  Being able to go with the flow was a great skill and it did ensure that people liked me, but as I got older I started to discover that living in default of everyone else’s wishes wasn’t really working out that well.  In fact, I felt trapped and stifled most of the time and my outward focus had left me with little room for self-compassion.  On top of all this, I was very empathic.  I could feel what everyone around me was feeling which fueled my people-pleasing because when the people around me felt good, then I felt good.  If they felt bad, well, I felt that too and I would unconsciously try to do things to alleviate the discomfort by making others happy.  Maybe you can relate, and I imagine you can see how this wasn’t a very fun way to live, but I did it for a long time… and then everything changed.

When I was 29 years old my whole life fell apart.  I had diligently worked up until that point to follow “the rules”.  I had graduated from college, married my college sweetheart, earned a master’s degree in Art History and had a baby daughter.  I thought that I was doing everything just the way I was supposed to.  My family was happy with me, we had lots of friends, and a really cute house.  Of course there was the fact that my husband, Chris, hated his job and dreaded getting up every morning, and I was feeling pretty lost too.  We thought if we just kept going that somehow it would all resolve itself eventually.  We were not prepared for what came next.  While our daughter was still an infant Chris was diagnosed with esophageal cancer and died two years later.  I was devastated.  With one fell swoop my life fell into ruin, but I have since learned that every experience in life brings blessings… even the most tragic.

Being widowed ultimately put me on the path to discovering my own spirit and embracing my intuition.  I experienced intense sadness and victimhood for a while before I was ready to change, but sinking into misery actually opened the door for profound healing.  I spent several years feeling overwhelmed and ungrounded.  I made tons of mistakes and was really hard on myself.  None of my old coping skills were working – my “people-pleasing and accommodating” was getting me into one mess after another and I had no margin to absorb this.  I was drowning.  One day as I was picking up my daughter from preschool I burst into tears from pure exhaustion.  My daughter’s teacher (a human angel I’m convinced) suggested that I could pray to my guardian angels for help.  About the same time I had a very perceptive doctor advise me to start doing simple nurturing things to take better care of myself.  Those suggestions began shifting everything.  Something had to change, so I decided to surrender and try things a new way.  When my choices changed, my life changed.  I began to sleep and take better care of myself; I learned to listen to my intuition instead of ignoring it; I began to express my creativity; I learned to meditate; and I learned to forgive myself for not being perfect.  I am still learning these things everyday, but the decision to trust my intuition and feed my spirit transformed my life.

I’ve spent the last decade studying and practicing art, spirituality, coaching, tarot, yoga, reiki, The Law of Attraction and Theta Healing.  My spirit has led me to some wonderful teachers for whom I am so grateful: Sonia Choquette has been inspiring me to live and love my spirit since 2003, and I have completed her Six Sensory Leadership Training.  I began studying tarot with Sheilaa Hite in 2005 and have been working with the cards ever since.  In 2011 I started combining all these interests into my coaching and art business: Light Heart Spirit Portraits.  I love working with women who are searching for a connection with their authentic spirit.  I’m passionate about guiding people to awaken and use their intuition; invite and allow abundance into their lives; discover and share their unique gifts; engage in self-care; celebrate their voices; and find the courage to be themselves.  Whether you are on a creative path, starting a business, seeking inner peace in the midst of a busy life, or all of the above, I’m honored to walk this path with you and share what I’ve learned on my own journey.  As an intuitive guide, teacher, and artist my mission is to help you connect with your own divine spirit.  I believe that opening to intuition; self-compassion; creative expression; and responsible choice expands the heart and facilitates healing and joy.  My readings and artwork are designed to reveal your innate beauty; affirm your inner knowing; and empower you to live an authentic and spirit-led life.

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5 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Hi Jennifer, I came across your site through Pinterest. I thought your artwork was beautiful. I read your About Me page and connected very much with the feelings you spoke of. I too, am widowed at a young age (36). I lost my husband just this month, also after a struggle with cancer. We have four children. I am an artist and was looking at artwork on Pinterest to try to distract me and came across yours. After many years of identifying as a caregiver and also trying to accommodate everyone’s needs and feelings, I have felt as if I have to find a new way of living.

    I just wanted to say that I admire you for getting through it and finding a new way of being. How long was the process for you?

    Sincerely,
    Nikki

    • Dear Nikki,
      Thank you so much for your beautiful comment. I am so sorry for your loss, and I want you to know that the pain of it does heal in time. The best thing you can do is feel your grief and be so, so gentle and compassionate with yourself. In fact, I would say the moment I found some compassion for myself in my own journey- that was the turning point for healing for me. It does take time, dear… but resisting grief draws out the process… so paint, soak up beauty, surround yourself with people who love you and can listen to you and be with your sadness, eat good food, let other people take care of you … cry a LOT…and allow your body, mind and spirit to have what they need. When I look back, I know it was the simple, grounding and nurturing things that I did for myself that brought me through. I didn’t always let myself have those things, but when I did, it made a huge difference. I feel so much compassion for where you are. Thank you for reaching out.
      With Love,
      Jennifer

  2. Dear Jennifer,

    Thank you for the support. It means a lot. I do plan to use this time alone (the first time I’ve been alone since high school) as a time to take care of me and of course the kids. I’ve never had time to think about what it is I want and need. A caregiver just does not really get that time. We will have to learn, or relearn how to live again, I suppose.

    Again, thank you for your compassion. I bookmarked your site and subscribed as it offered me that flicker of inspiration since I lost my husband.

    Sincerely,
    Nikki

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